after a brief discussion we come up with a stand for the short story 'Everything is Arranged' and 'A Question of Dowry (although we dont really understand what is actually a 'stand'..is it an order to stand or anything that ask us to stand)
"the use of dowry has been abused in both stories"
in 'A Question of Dowry' the father of the girl couldnt afford fulfill the dowry because they dont have enough money to pay..they tried to sell the land..however the land was not that valuable to pay the dowry...i think that, if the boy really want to marry the girl, he could have thought about the problems of the other side..he could help them by giving them money to support the dowry (the boy is a doctor, he is rich for sure)
in 'Everything is Arranged' i think the issues raised here is a very sensitive issue:1. the question of dowry. 2. the acceptance of mixed marriage...but i will be focusing on the issue of dowry..the father of the girl increased the dowry value just for the purpose of not wanting his children to marry with non-indian...this is the abuse of the dowry main purpose
we can see that the dowry purpose is like have changed with time...before: dowry is given by the girl's father to ensure his daughter could live and survive with the money...(the purpose just went for the girl) now: the dowry is requested by the male's side to know the girl's financial status..see..it is change now...(just like night and day) i say, if the purpose of dowry is not being corrected by people now, it will one day vanish just like a mitos (and it is actually happening now)
The ugly truth of having dowry system in Indian wedding has been revealed here. It is truly an eye-opener, I would say. Dowry is supposed to be for emergency as what you said. However, It has been used to grade a girl since from those days. As a female, I feel this to be utterly unfair for us. Why of all other things, money is used to value us. It portray some kind of trading happening during the wedding vivah due to the existence of dowry. Dowry giving and receiving is not wrong as long as it is being done in the correct way. However, in my personal opinion, dowry is unnecessary. I don't find to be a good system. Albeit it being apart of our culture, me and family do not really opt for dowry system in Indian wedding.
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